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How to Make Her Your Girlfriend – From Fling to “Serious Thing”

An amazing woman you can’t stop thinking about, also likes you back. Awesome.

But now you wonder… “how do I make her *officially* mine? How do I make her MY girlfriend?”

If you’re looking to turn your fling into a “serious thing”… then pay close attention to today’s Q+A newsletter because you’re about to learn how to make her your girlfriend.

You will also learn…

  • the correct way to text a woman you’re seeing. (You’re probably doing it completely wrong)
  • the exact behaviors you need to do to get your lady friend intensely attracted to you, pursuing you, and asking you to be her boyfriend.
  • 1 critical mistake men make that absolutely ruins their chances of turning the girl they’re seeing into a serious girlfriend. (I hope you’re not making this mistake).

Ok let’s get to it. We’ll begin with the first question.


I told a girl I liked her and she said she liked me back, we have been on and off for 4 years. She said she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship and when I ask her to start speaking like bf and gf, and she says she doesn’t know.

Is this a polite way to say she doesn’t like me and put me in the friend zone or do you think she has not made her mind up or anything else. Thank you for your help its eating me alive trying to figure this out.>

– Vince

>>>My Comments

Ok Vince, hang on to something tight because here comes some tough love…

This girl likes you… but you are ruining the attraction because you’re acting too much like a woman!!

It seems like you probably did something to make her like you in the past.(Good job.)

But now when it comes to taking the next step towards forming a “relationship”, you’re brainwashed on how it’s supposed to happen so you’re unsure of yourself and you’re making HUGE mistakes.

You see, society brainwashes us with movies and stories about the guy who attracts a woman by pursuing her, buying her gifts, and sharing his feelings for her.

But what works in those movies, NEVER works in real life. If you do behaviors such as…

  • sharing your feelings
  • talking about “getting serious”
  • asking a woman about her feelings for you

…you will only PUSH WOMEN AWAY.

Because when you go from acting like a confident man who’s sure of himself, to acting like a little girl who’s worried sick…

…it completely obliterates the masculine-feminine polarity between the two of you and attraction FADES.

That’s why you need to stop doing the following BIG MISTAKES…

1. Never get “serious” about your feelings for her

2. Don’t ask her about whether you two can be boyfriend-girlfriend

Instead, here’s what you need to do:

Focus on creating fun-filled romantic opportunities for kissing and “getting physical” to happen without any future serious “relationship” attachments or expectations.

I’m serious, don’t ever bring up relationship talk with that girl again unless you want her to run away from you fast.

And if you all of that correctly, here’s how to make her your girlfriend:

Once she realizes you’re acting like a man again (because you aren’t getting needy anymore)… her attraction for you will go back up, and THEN she will be the one to bring up relationship “labels” and getting “officially” together.

Can you relate with Vince’s situation?

You can?

Great, then you’ll love the next “how to make her your girlfriend” question.


Things Between us Aren’t Getting Serious…How Do I Make Her My Girlfriend?

I took this girl out one Friday night, she was awesome and we related on a lot of things. Throughout the night, I was being myself, and from her body language I can tell she was herself as well. I could tell we both were into each other.

Towards the end of it, I dropped her off and went to give her a hug goodnight, and then it just eventually turned into a kiss session. I think it was a build-up for how we both were having a really good time and when it happened, we both seemed to be into it.

Ever since then, we’ve spoken here and there but not enough to make it seem like things are getting kind of serious. I’ve been split from my ex for a while and I’m ready to get back into seeing new people, but I just get so unmotivated at the thought of anything “relationship” wise sometimes…

But this girl just seems to be a really awesome person, and if I ask her out to do whatever, I will bring up that moment when our kiss just happened and see where it goes from there.

Is it worth it?

– Joseph

>>>My Comments

Joseph, dude, what are you doing?!

You did a good job at first. You had a great time with this girl, and you got her liking you…

But now you’re getting into the type of thinking that ruins attraction!

See, you’re thinking in terms of how do I make “things get serious” with the way I talk to her when you should instead be thinking “how do I make a repeat of this fun experience I had with her?”

The weird thing is that when you aim for a woman’s boyfriend zone” and act like you want to be in a serious relationship with her… it actually pushes her away and you instead end up in the FRIEND ZONE.

Instead, aim for her “LOVER ZONE”.

Only focus on arranging plans to hang out, have fun, and create an opportunity to get physical with her.

Just say “I’d love to see you again, when are you free to get together?”

That’s it.

Avoid texting too much. The purpose of the phone is only to arrange dates.

Because masculine energy is all about taking action and making things happen, while feminine energy is all about wondering about the “status” of a relationship.

Leave the “getting serious” department to her.

After you hang out with her enough times, and create great experiences with the woman without putting any pressure on her to be your girlfriend…

That’s when the woman starts to become more and more attracted to you and she will be the one who brings up getting serious, attaching a label to “us”… etc.

Again, all you have to do is

  1. Avoid texting too much…
  2. Focus on making arrangements to meet up again…
  3. Create opportunities for fun/romance/sex to happen…

It’s very simple.

And if you want to learn more about how to create an intense urge in her to chase you to be YOUR girlfriend, then learn the 4 Horsemen of the Chase… (revealed in this video at around the 11th minute mark)

Now as you can see from these questions… men get into tons of trouble when they feel the need to quickly get into an official relationship with a girl..

When you start acting like you want to lock her down and be her boyfriend, she starts sensing it and her attraction for you falls quicker than a lead balloon.

So don’t do that.

How to make her your girlfriend? By letting her bring it up when she’s attracted enough.

I hope you’re with me here.

How to attract her enough? By not getting needy, blowing up her phone, and doing the things in this video.

I’ll talk to you again very soon with similar Q+A friend zone busting, girl-getting, attraction-triggering content.

Have a question? Want a specific topic covered? Just reply to this article and let me know.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your friend,


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